To say that lot’s of marriages are heading for the rocks is putting it mildly. A look around would confirm this. Lot”s of folks who get divorced don’t really count the cost. Our media does not make it easier. Divorce has almost been dignified and folks don’t come out to actually tell the truth about their experience with divorce.
Because divorce has been made into a glamorous act, folks don’t just have the commitment to hold on to their marriages and work things out. It is now like a crime to notice a failing by your spouse and choose to forgive. The individual is taken to be enslaved. You can only imagine how they would view a person who’s coping with infidelity in their marriage.
We watch the media show people who say they are experiencing a much more satisfying life after their divorce. This usually sounds false and incomplete. Aside from an individual who went into marriage with a plan to get a divorce so as to get some financial gains, anybody who goes through a divorce always experiences pain. If you went through the natural process of falling in love and getting married, you would surely experience pain.
Do not let anybody regale you with wonderful stories of divorce. You may uncover the truth after you have gone too far. The sorry thing is that many would still not come forward to speak the truth even after discovering it. They would choose to put up a front.
Only a person who has felt it can tell you how drawn they are to couples who in sincerity call to you “save my marriage.” This is the desire of anybody who really desires to build a home. We must at this point pose this question. Is it possible for someone to save a marriage?
This question can be looked at from different points. From one side, you can say that nobody can help a marriage. From another point, somebody can help you save your marriage. I guess what we’re attempting to make us all grasp is that the choice of whether our marriage is saved or not is ours to make.
Opting to go for marriage therapy is a decision arising from a desire to learn how to make their marriage succeed. This is a personal decision to make a move towards repairing their marriage. After going for the therapy, the person would also have to determine if they would follow the instructions they have received.
Nobody can do more than give advice to you. You as the person actually involved would be tasked with the very implementation. If every of the choices you make are aimed at saving your marriage, you can correctly say that you are actually the one fixing your marriage.
It is just elating to come across couples with an honest desire to do everything they can to build a successful marriage. These types of couples always overcome any problem they face. Problems are faced squarely with each persons giving their all. It is actually discouraging if it’s only one spouse who’s committed to the cause.
Be committed to having a happy marriage and start working towards it.