I have recently found out that so many married people really assume it’s normal for their spouse especially the men to cheat on them. I do not agree with this. It is everyone’s responsibility to be true to their partner.
This position of mine does not claim ignorance of the clear rise in infidelity in marriage. Do people no more view marriage as something to be shared only between two people? It is obvious from the rise in divorce cases we record that something needs to be done about this.
The truth is that while there may be a general underlying cause, the visible cause would be unique from marriage to marriage. This is why a marriage counselor would handle varying types of cases from different homes.
A lot of homes lack the ability to handle infidelity. Some actually didn’t know they could deal with it till it happened. Anybody who truly desired for their marriage to succeed was able to find something from within to help them through the challenge.
When you are committed to making your marriage succeed, you get your mind ready to do what’s required. Being committed may not be enough as you may need to get some guidance. This is the reason why lot’s of folks go for marriage therapy. When you go to a marriage counselor, you would be able to look through your issues thoroughly so you can come up with a plan of action.
You can infer from the above that you actually do not have to understand what to do or how to take care of infidelity. All you need to do is be willing to do anything it takes. With this commitment in place, you can then talk with a marriage therapist and I promise you that you would find yourself conquering the issue.
As soon as you can identify what might have caused the extra marital affair, quickly fix it. Did you discover that your spouse was not getting what they need from you? Begin to meet that need. It’s easier for couples to face infidelity when their basic needs are not satisfied in the marriage.
Giving your all in a marriage is one certain way of ensuring it succeeds. There’s no point in holding back when you’re in a marriage. View it like it is only about the two of you. Find fulfillment in yourselves.
A lot of people have failed in their marriages because they mentally had an alternative to their spouse. This is a sure recipe for disaster. You actually need to begin to look at your partner as your all. This way of thinking would make you work harder at your marriage.
Finally, I would not fail to tell you that it’s a big mistake going into marriage assuming that it is the happily ever after story you see or read about in prince and princess fables. Those are fairy tales. There are great times and there are not so great times. The choice of whether to live happily ever after or not is only yours to make. The choice to be happy would involve your letting go of some things. This is fundamentally a change in your life. It is no more just about you but about you and your spouse.