It may be very difficult to re-establish a relationship after a break-up. Being separate gives the spouses some time to consider how they can fare on independent of each other. It also affords some break from whatever problems a couple may have faced, and thereby have more insight. However, this is not the way people generally look at it when they are separated, but instead view it as the beginning of the end of their marriage.
You do not have to let a break-up mark the end of your relationship. You can actually work things out and come up with an even stronger relationship after getting over the pain of being separate. Basically, you should use the period when you are apart to fix any problems that resulted in the problem in the first place.
Carry out necessary maintenance
Few people take no effort to mend their relationships after they separate. The problem is that many of them tend to relax their efforts once they are back in their relationships. This is a serious mistake.
There is need to maintain the relationship by making lasting adjustments so that you do not relapse to your former mistakes.
Determine the exact causes of your break-up
In order to carry out necessary maintenance, you should first of all have a clear understanding of what the exact reasons for the break-up are. Do not let the symptoms that caused the condition mislead you and fail to get to the root cause of the problem.
Take time to determine the root problem, for without tackling the real problem, there is no hope of saving your relationship. Do not let your emotions cloud your perception.
Fix the problem you have found
The next step after determining the real problem is to take necessary measures to solve it. Given that it takes two to form a relationship, you will both need to work at the most appropriate solution. This will offer you a suitable opportunity to start working on the important partnership that a relationship involves.
Although you may face some challenges in your effort of fixing the problem, this is actually relatively easier than finding out the problem in the first place. Bear in mind that both of you will need to make a number of compromises in order to reach an amicable solution.
Take a completely new look
You should endeavor to start your relationship afresh. It is not a matter of patching up old parts but an entirely new start.
After getting over the pain of being separate, you can work to re-establish your relationship and make it even stronger than before. Do not hesitate to seek professional help whenever it is necessary.