The issue of how important our marriages actually are has come up many times. A lot of people have commented that the society as a whole is a reflection of what is happening in the marriages since the homes are small cells that constitute the society. It is therefore natural to say that the rate of failure in the homes is directly related to the rate of failure in the society at large.
If we agree that this is a fact, I then wonder why we are not doing a lot to save the home. Much energy is put into changing issues in the wider society without primarily handling the issue at the homes. When we talk about placing the cart in front of the horse, this is a ready example.
Lot’s of homes that are now broken have done so for many different reasons. If I may say this, I would say that there’s almost no reason that can be offered that had no solution. One can almost be sure of this. If you think that many other marriages had to face problems maybe even more serious than some of the ones that broke up but weathered it, you would agree with my point.
One thing we made really clear from the very start here was that issues can be handled correctly or wrongly. In all the challenges that marriages face, infidelity seems to be the most difficult to tackle. This is understandably so because dealing with infidelity sincerely isn’t a simple endeavor. Despite this fact, we can still say with conviction that it’s possible because we have living examples.
What is the inappropriate way of approaching this type of situation? If for any reason you begin by not thinking you can fix things, then you actually might not be able to accomplish it. People who fixed their marriage in spite of their challenges did so because they were assured that there was still a future to be had in their marriage. Knowing there’s hope encourages your efforts.
If my heart desire is to learn how to same my marriage, I would certainly do all within my ability to either do or learn. Here is a little advice. If you have no idea what to do to save your marriage but desire to do so, just consult a marriage counselor. The fact that you actually consider visiting a marriage counselor is a great step. However, it is more important that you do this with the right mindset. It’s actually unfortunate when you find people who waste time (I regard it as a waste of time) going to a marriage counselor simply to prove a point. They aren’t actually going to seek answers but are going to either show their partner how wrong they are or were or how right they themselves are.
To be successful in repairing your marriage and tackling with infidelity, there is need for you to forgive your spouse and be ready to start afresh. You forgive then you make efforts at fixing things.
Let us make the society a happy place by making our families a happy place. Sort out the homes well and we won’t have to bother about the society as a whole.