It would be crazy to think that a parent could learn everything they need to know in one year of their child’s life, so be prepared to be an eternal student. While it may not feel like it, you will learn a lot about yourself and your child through these experiences since you are doing them together. Each new grade level in school will unlock new opportunities for your child. Kids always want to be older than they really are, but you need to help prepare them for the challenges they will face as they mature. Parents can do a lot to help prepare their child to leave home so that it is an easy transition. Your child will appreciate the various ways you will walk alongside them in the challenges they encounter.
Parents with more than one child, make their family dynamics become something complicated. Without making an effort not to, it can really be easy to show favoritism for one child over another. Unfortunately, this is usually part of being human and not something that is easily avoidable.
Maintaining a healthy perspective in all areas with your children is important, especially when it comes to favoritism. Children need to feel loved and wanted by the parents, and that is the responsibility of a parent. Sometimes parents show favoritism without even realizing they are doing it, and the possibility of that should be understood. Everyone can think back to their days as a kid and not feeling adequate in some way. It’s hard to let go of emotions when they feel so traumatic at the time. It may not be easy to get your child to share with you about how they feel, but it is absolutely necessary to know how they are responding to life’s events. Before starting an activity, you should talk with your child to make sure it is really what they want to do. Give them the freedom to talk about how they feel with you. It is so much better to listen first and then give wisdom on what to do. Even though it may not be easy, it’s a good idea to show your children how they fit into the big picture with their skills and see if there is another way they can succeed.
It is inevitable that parents will find aspects of their children that they cannot stand or wish were not there. This may be quite a surprise or even a disappointment for many parents, and that is a natural reaction and should not be a cause or concern. As the children change, parents sometimes become disgruntled, many times finding themselves disliking their own children because of it. As children grow older, these changes are simply going to happen, and you need to, as a strong and positive parent, deal with that fact in the right way. The best way to handle it is to accept that it is happening and love them because they are your children which is really all you can do.
You will be put to the test in your parenting experience by a thousand different situations. Raising children, and the little tests, can make or break a marriage. There is strength and positive values to be passed on to children with consistency all across the board with children.